YES! get lost

"The easiest way you can tell yourself what you're worth, is by what you say 'yes' to. The easiest way you can tell your body what it's worth, is by what you put into it."

You might remember last week after doing that interview over here, I mentioned that I would dedicate one day a week to celebrating something that I'm saying yes to...here's to:

Getting lost....ALONE!

Okay, don't freak out. Breathe...

I'm not talking all extreme style like Emile Hersch in "Into the Wild". I'm talking about finding something that envelops you, something that you can dive into without consideration for anyone else.

{note reading a book alone in a bath = good, reading a book entitled "help your husband get ahead = not so good"}
So to answer your question, no Friday and Saturday nights binge drinking don't count and neither does Sunday's food feast after you realize he never asked for your number {it's okay, we've aaaall been there haha}. Nor does copious amounts of The Real Housewives franchise or being alone in the car for 5 mins while you run yourself ragged for friends and family. I'm talking about something that you can metaphysically plug yourself into. Just. For. You.

Here's some of my guidelines:

• It's something you should be doing entirely for yourself that's egoless. If you're waiting for someone else's approval , a pat on the back or their direct input then that's not what I'm talking about.
• In an ideal world you need to do it a couple of times a week and here's the kicker, not feel guilty about it!
• It should feel like you're completely alone even if you're in a room filled with 100's of people.

For me this looks like:

• Mediatation
• Dancing alone like a psycho in my living room {I know, I apologise downstairs neighbor if you're reading this}
• Yoga
• Running/walking
• Cooking myself dinner and eating it alone with no TV

See, here's my theory.  When you're alone and not only are you okay with being alone, but you actually enjoy your own company, there's a stillness that comes from wholeheartedly embracing who you are as an individual.  The strength that comes from such stillness infiltrates every aspect of your life.  People resist being alone all the time and sometimes without even knowing it, it's their greatest fear. I get it, I do. We can hide behind the "I'm just more of a people person", "I'm too busy",  but that unconsciousness can get you into a whole lot of trouble when you say yes to people and situations to avoid confronting that fear.  It might feel a little strange at first but I promise you after a while, it will become extremely liberating.

So, chickadees I ask you, when's the last time you were alone and still with yourself? More importantly what are you waiting for? Take yourself on a date! Not only are you a really really good time, you really are fantastic company... but you don't need me to tell you that, go find out for yourself!

xo chirps
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